Who am I?

The question of who I am and who I belong to becomes a profound thought.  If I belong to a father that was a thief and a liar.  Might I end up in similar circumstances?  Would that kind of role model determine who I was and who I was to become.  It is really interesting to recognize those big influences in our lives and how to accurately be able to unpack who we really are.  Not DNA, but who we have chosen to hitch our wagon to.  Who influences the people that have influenced you?

When someone proclaims that you do not know me.  That is so true. To know who someone is you would need to be able to query very specific questions from people that influence your influencer.  That is exactly what Bruce Bueno de Mequita did working for the CIA. The model was a rational choice theory in political forecasting.  A fancy way of saying, that whoever is about to make a decision will be influenced by their circle of influence.  Learn who is in that inner circle and get the answer to what they believe in specific areas and you have a predictive model that is amazingly accurate.

When we talk about free will, that would likely have more to do with your freedom in choosing your friends.  Based on your friend circle, your choice becomes very predictable.

Back in the time of Jesus and his disciples, they did not know for a while exactly who Jesus was.

Peter Declares That Jesus Is the Messiah in Matthew 16: 13-17

When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, “Who do people say the Son of Man is?”

They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, Jeremiah or one of the prophets.”

 “But what about you?” he asked. “Who do you say I am?”

Simon Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”

Knowing who their leader was had everything to do with who they were.  After seeing Jesus in his resurrected body, they finally knew Jesus as God and they became steadfast as followers of God.

Well the question comes down to having people in our lives that are like a dad to us.  The question remains who is your Daddy.  The home that you reside in, who built it?  Not what was there when you got there, but how you remodeled that home to reflect who you are.

That house does not come with baggage other than the baggage that you bring in.  When you move in, the walls are white and everything is open.  Do you haul in the clutter or do you design with a purpose.  Do you live with a purpose.  That likely comes all the way back to who is your Daddy?

Own It!


I cannot think of  a better example of owning your circumstance and breathing positivity from it  more that Whitney Way Thore.  When I first saw her dance, my immediate thought was “you go girl”. She owns it and from that end she is extremely fun to hang out with on her Cable TV show.  Whitney is as real as it gets.  She is vulnerable, but she is willing to risk that so that others can be inspired.  You can always talk about just owning it and be comfortable in your own skin, but it is hard to find a really good example of that.  I think Whitney fits the bill.  I usually do not include links, but Whitney’s message is worth it.

I know Body Shaming is a high trending topic.  I just know when you take the shame out of how we view ourselves, we remove a lot of that sting that we feel coming from others.  Loving ourselves is where confidence begins.  Remember that just about everyone out there is insecure and will react to someone else’s failing while deflecting anything that would remotely land back on them. Deflection and redirection is an art form for many bully enablers.  If you do not rebuff ignorance, then it only grows.  You do not have to be confrontational, but you can let people know that you are not down with that kind of abuse and walk away from it, while encouraging the one that is being abused.

Everyone has their own shame and insecurities, but once we come to terms with what is actually true versus what is a lie that some where down the road we decided to believe.  Whitney makes me smile and I am going to leave a link so she can make you smile as well.